My wife and I have an old friend in Weslaco whose husband died late last year after being married for more than 40 years. To say she’s still heartbroken, in terrible grief and painful suffering, would be an understatement. In other words, take all that and double it. If you’re around her, her grief, well, she hides it some, but it follows her wherever she goes. She puts on a brave mask, but underneath, the terrible pain over her loss lingers.What would help, she says, is if people would just keep their thoughts to themselves. Actually, it’s not people’s thoughts ...